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[11:46:34 AM] Roommate :) Bestfriends, I have discovered, are more than just the generic best friend. You see, because between the generic best and friend there is a space. They are still two separate people with two separate lives who just happen to get along very well. When you remove that space, you retain two separate people and personalities but they are much closer--they become part of each other. In that they become one word, one name... They share hearts, experiences, pain, friends, laughs, memories. At the close of the day, best friends would say goodbye, see you later. At the close of our day, us bestfriends fall asleep in the middle of a conversation that picks right back up in the morning. We never say goodbye. ~ Chris Latini

Today I was thinking about bestfriends and best friends. I think that regardless of what your title is...being a friend is a job. It takes sacrifice. Sometimes it's one you're glad to make. Other times it's harder.... In order to help you (meaning me) become an even better best friend I have written a job description.
As best friend it is your job:

Remind her that she's pretty.

Make her feel better when she's sick.

Be brave with her. Try new things.

Pretend to be braver than your friend so she'll try it with you.

It is your job to make sure that the hug/tickle/cuddle ratio is exceeded every day. No one like an under achiever.

It is your job to keep life surprising.

Laugh at her jokes. Even if they aren't funny.

Tell her your jokes. Even if they aren't funny.

It is your job to beat someone up when they mess with her.

You are supposed to make sure that she gets enough chocolate. Which means you HAVE to eat chocolate too. It's a big sacrafice I know...

In order to help keep your best freind healthy, you should do something adventurous every once in a while. Like sneak up on her.

Try new things before her so she won't have to.

Eat the food she won't eat. This ensures that you can be Snack Buddies.

Teach her something she doesn't know.

Make a big deal out of special things.

Your attendance is required at all friend focused functions. Regardless of how focused it really is on your friend. If she's in it you better be front row center cheering the loudest.

Share your clothes. You can't wear them all at once.

Make her feel safe when she feels afraid, unsure....when she doubts.
This is a big one. This is when your title of bestfriend also means Gatekeeper. You are supposed to be the strong one. You're like...the secretary. You screen calls and such...only....you screen people's thoughts before they try to share them with your bestfriend. It's like...being the personal security guard. This one is harder for me to explain... I don't really know how to explain how to do it, but maybe with bestfriends there need not be an explanation... However, it is your job to do whatever you can with whatever means you can....to let no harm come her way. Do all you can and then do ten percent more..because 100% isn't really all...

Break the rules with her. Who else can you TP the boys' dorm with?

Share your dreams. Share your secrets.

It is your job to cheer her up if she is sad.

I've heard it said that frienship is sharing the common vision that life is better becuase the other person is around. I think that a bestfriend-ship is just that. Regardless of whether life feels good or bad....it's better because of your bestfriend. At your lowest of low it's still ok, because you have your bestfriend.

Your job is to make her life better.
If she's really your bestfriend, she'll be doing the same thing.
From there, life is all you need it to be.